I think money should be hared and divided evenly to have a healthy relationships. But splitting and dividing the money isn't the main point of a good relationship. I think it is how the person spends the money to keep a healthy relationship. Like if one spends the money for gambling, runs out and is in debt which causes arguments and demands more money form their partner, that is a terrible relationship. I think a healthy relationship is when you spend your money wisely. Money should be divided evenly or how much each person made and spent on things they need to keep the relationship healthy instead of sour.
Money spending is a really complicated topic when it comes to relationships. There is so much information to account. Both people in the relationship have to decide on what to spends and how to spend it. Communication is key. Money is dangerous and it can lead to many conflicts, and like you said, it causes arguments. In a mature and healthy relationship, there should be a budget where both equally contribute on decision making, they might not get the same amounts because each one has their own money (different jobs, different pay) but both equally should communicate concerns and finance accordingly. Money can lead to many arguments and break many relationships but if managed accordingly it can work out.
I agree with you that money should be spent wisely and not irresponsibly but when it comes to spending money for leisure time it’s probably not the same circumstances. Does spending all of your own money not put into the relationship affect the finances in the relationship? Does the spouse have a right to feel upset about that money?
I believe that there are such things as bad spending habits that you listed but if one is using their money that doesn't cut into the household expense and doesn't bother the other person then it should be no problem. There should be some type of division amongst the people but also to always have a seperate account in which they can use for themselves. Having all money tied together could result in someone spending too much or having too little.
I strongly agree with you statement that money should be spend wisely and that in order to have a good relationship, money shouldn't revolve around it. Gambling and debt could crumble the relationship thus it's good to learn trusty money habits.
In a healthy relationship money should not be shared but rather financed accordingly. There are many variables to consider in this situation, what if the couple is married? What if they are high school students? What if one is in college while the other is working? What if they are both in college? What if they live together? What if they are parents? Knowing how to finance in each situation it's crucial. It would be ideal to have money divided equally but if they are both high school and not living together why would they divide money equally? are they going to ask their parents for money and then divide it between the two? There should be a three-way thinking, respecting each other's money, support each other financially, and plan ahead. For instance, if both are married and live together, both should have heir own money, both should have a budget for the household 9one that everyone shares) and another amount that is reserved for emergency (meaning no one can have it). In other words, each has their own money, there is another amount that is shared(or borrowed), and the other amount that is saved (This of course does not apply for all cases). Therefore, money should be respected, distributed at a balance, taking in consideration expenses and other factors that may apply.
I agree when you said that money should respected and distributed at a balance b/c if not there won't be any peace b/w the people in the relationship. Like what you said dealing with finance is very crucial. There's a certain way money should be handled, and if it isn't then things the right way. Money is a complicated thing amongst people who are in a relationship, no matter if they just got into one or they've been in a relationship for a long time.
I agree with what you say that money should be financed accordingly and on the situation of the couple because it's better than sharing without knowing what the other partner is spending on. It's a big responsibility that has to been wisely decided in order to have food on the able and sharing won't help. I also agree with saving some for emergency because that would really help in a relationship if the economy is recceding.
In my opinion, money should be shared, divided and spent evenly b/w the two people in the relationship b/c everything is fair and right b/w the two people. I can tell from my experience from seeing how my parents split money b/w them, that if money isn't split evenly, things will go south. My dad likes to save his money, so that when something bad happens he's prepare with his money. Nothing wrong with that, always be prepared for the future. However, my mom likes to spend money, not on useless things but things she needs for us and the home and everything else. Since my dad doesn't allow my mom to have a job, every time my mom wants to buy something, she has to ask my dad for money. Since, my dad doesn't like spending money, he's always complaining why does my mom spend so much money on useless things and etc. My dad keeps all the money to himself and usually never gives money to my mom when she needs it. So in a healthy relationship, there should be a balance when it comes to money. We all have our things we need to buy, it may sound useless to other people but to us it seems useful if we're buying it. Therefore, money should used respectfully and equally amongst the two people in the relationship.
I also disagree because equality doesn't always mean that everyone gets the same. It's more like everyone gets what they need to be equal to one another and different amounts of money will fulfill that.
I agree and disagree because it isn't fair for your mom who might even want to work but your dad isn't letting her and therefor has to be dependent on your dad however, I don't think everything should be equal. for example one person is really hard working and works long hours and earns a lot while the other person doesn't work as hard, does minimum work, gets low pay and expects the other person to split his/her money with him/her. That wouldn't be right so splitting evenly won't work all the time.
I strongly agree that money should be divided equally between a married couple. However, there does have to be a balance maintained. One person can’t just take more and not provide anything back to the compromise. Even if one person does not have a job, they have to provide other things like cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children, and etc. Partners in the relationship should be able to communicate with one another and understand each other's needs so that each person can satisfy the needs by using the shared income. If there is horrible communication between the partners, it is difficult to develop compromises and discuss the reasons to one's decision with purchase. I understand that some people may worry about the money and their financial situation, but the key is communication. Communication will lead to the balance and trust needed in a relationship in order for everything to work out in the end.
I agree and disagree with some of the things that was said. It’s pretty unlikely that money is ever going to be evenly split because life happens. Sometimes one persons has more than the other or like you said one person pretty much controls the finances. It’s more about deciding what needs to be spend where and how often. Sort of like an agreed budget between the two people.
The idea of money being shared, divided, and spent in a relationship is kind of a broad topic because this depends on whether someone is assessing a new couple in college or a married couple. When it comes to a couple that is in high school, college, or just have been with each other for a few months, I believe that each person should earn and have their own money. Someone could buy their boyfriend/girlfriend something, but the couple doesn’t have to essentially share money. When a couple starts to get more serious and live with each other, this is when I would expect a couple to start sharing money to pay for the rent and utilities. Each person in a serious relationship may have their own money that they earn from their jobs, but I would expect them to start deciding together on whether to cook more or go out sometimes, which leads to the discussion of how to spend money on bills, but also on the sort of lifestyle that they want to live. In a healthy relationship, communication is key. When people are married, I would say that this is when people start to share more money, think about budgeting, and have bank accounts together. Individuals who are married should be able to trust each other, which is why more money is shared. Husbands and wives could have their own portions of money that they earn from their job that they may use on a day to day basis, but they have to keep in mind how to balance their money to satisfy their financial needs, their lifestyle, and their daily expenses. All in all, it depends on what stage in a relationship you are in, but overall, you should be able to trust your significant other, share money depending on how serious the relationship is, and maintain a balance.
I agree that the money spent and how a couple deals with finances reflects their lifestyle. Even if there isn’t a good “balance” that shouldn’t entirely affect the relationship. Of course money is a crucial part to any relationship but the other person is entitled to have their own money and even if it does go sour as far as finances your lifestyle depicts how you’ll deal with it. Bad lifestyle = bad money management
In a healthy relationship, I think money should be shared, divided, and spent equally. The couple should compromise on what they want to spend their money on but also be happy with what they spend on themselves. The spending should be fair as well. For example, if they happened to have an extra amount of money and one wanted to go on vacation while the other wanted to save it, I feel they should come up with a solution. Or if one of the partners wants to buy something for themselves, if the other partner has an issue they should speak up about it and again come up with a compromise.
I agree with most of what you have said, but I also think that just because they want to buy something for themselves they shouldn't have to discuss that with their partner. If I want to buy a bag I would buy a bag. It's my money, as long as I don't spend his/hers it doesn't matter in my opinion. But I do think that whenever both partners are involved in a spending, both should be consulted and a solution should be found. Emma Jumpelt
Myasia I agree with what you said. The couples should always come to a comprise one what they spend their money on. They should also talk and speak about it as well. In a relationship there should be a comprise and if you guys want to do stuff alone with your money then feel free too. But always know there is limits and one shouldn’t be greedier then the other.
My standpoint on whether money should be shared, divided and spent in a healthy relationship is that it all depends on the relationship and how much a person can provide to the other person in the relationship. However, I still do think money should be shared and divided, depending on how the other person feels about it. I think this because in a relationship you and another person are like “half” of each other and together that makes a whole. In that sense, I think in a healthy relationship you would be able to share the money and divide it so then it can help to balance out the relationship. For example, let's say we go out for dinner. You can pay for the dinner that day. But I may also have to pay for dinner next time. That being so, it helps to balance and stabilize the relationship therefore, there isn't no hard feelings in that way. Also, I think that in a healthy relationship you need communication with one another so you can find a middle ground on what each other wants. I want to add saying that it all depends on the relationship and how far they are in. Despite that being said a healthy relationship is having communication, stabilization, and equality.
I agree with everything you said. Especially the part where you said money should be shared and divided depending on how the other person feels about it. It's also good to balance out the relationship.
Money is something many people fight about. Especially in a relationship where you need to find a balance of spendings together. The way they did it in the book is how I'd never thought of doing it, you don't have to calculate every little thing and split it in half. I also don't think you need to keep track of all the spendings for each other. For example this is how I do it with friends: If i buy you lunch today, you'll buy me lunch next time. It doesn't matter if it's a couple dollars more or less, you don't have to calculate it to the exact. Also, since Harold earns more than Lena, he should sometimes pay more and not expect her to pay for something she doesn't use. And just because he might've paid more for the house does not mean that he can decide everything about it. He chose to earn more than Lena by not letting her invest into the idea she had for him, and by not promoting her after 2 years of working for him. A healthy relationship does not consist of literal equalness with everything but it's about balance. As long as the spendings balance each other out in a way, there shouldn't be a problem with the money. Emma Jumpelt
I agree with you Emma. I feel as if you calculate all the numbers, you get lost in what you are trying to do. Being so meticulous in a relationship is draining and taking away from your time with your significant other. Communication is key when splitting money and combining expenses but shouldn't be a burden or a daily routine for a couple, because it distracts you.
I agree with everything you said. I think that in order to have a healthy relationship you can pin point everything you do to make sure its equal because then it makes the relationship feel over whelmed and not going with the flow. I liked how you said having communication is about having balance which is right.
In a healthy Relationship money should be shared for expenses that involve both partners. Such as Rent, Utilities, and bills. I also believe that in some moments there one partner can have more money than others in which the partner could try to put in some more money. Money also should be divided in which one should have money for some personal expense because each person has their own needs and wants and should take care of them themselves. In some instances each partner could share their money and spend on each other for leisure and fun.
I agree with everything you said. Just because you're together does not mean you have to split all the bills evenly. For expenses like rent and utilities I understand that the costs should be shared, and also as you said if one person may earn more money, they can put more money in altogether. Emma Jumpelt
I agree with you Lamont that the expenses can be shared so then it doesnt feel like only one person is paying for everything. However, I think that a person in the relationship should as much as they can to their potential. And obviously its call about communication.
In a healthy relationship you need to discuss your income and how you're going to create a budget. Money should be spent reasonably in order to have some saved for the future. If they plan on having kids then they'll have to be extra careful so that can provide for them. Money is very important in a healthy relationship.
I strongly agree with you that they should discuss and have a budget and have money saved incase of a emergency. Money causes many problems in relationships so it should be spent reasonably and they should talk and and discuss there income it will reduce problems , communication is key.
I agree that, "In a healthy relationship you need to discuss your income and how you're going to create a budget" because there are many situations in which not every person in the relationship makes the same amount of money as the other. I feel like as long as everyone plays their part, than the relationship is fair, equal and smooth sailing
I totally agree with the part of spending your money reasonably for the future and that you should budget because you never know. And having money and usuing it reasonably keeps a healthy relationship.
In a healthy relationship Money is shared between all parties involved. When A marriage blossoms, both the wife and the husband should contribute to everything in order to pay for expenses (wants and needs). A woman shouldn't be expected to pay nothing, pay more, or pay for all expenses , and neither should men. There comes a point in the relationship where the couple has children and as the children grow up and find their own source of income while still living under the parents house. When that occurs, I believe that the children should also contribute to the finances. Not only is it a great way to learn and implement habits, but its also a great way to give back to the parents who gave you so much. there are many moving parts to have a successful relationship , and one of that includes finances. Everyone in the relationship has to do their part in order for the parts to keep moving.
I agree when you said that everyone in the relationship has to do their part in order to keep things moving b/c it's if one person in the relationship isn't doing what they're supposed to do, it screws the relationship up. Everyone is expected to play their part in the relationship, everything is supposed to be equal amongst everyone in the relationship.
I definitely agree when you said "I believe that the children should also contribute to the finances. Not only is it a great way to learn and implement habits, but its also a great way to give back to the parents who gave you so much." This statement could be applied the youth of our generation, when helping our parents out, in the long run it will prepare us when living by our selves in the world. It will also contribute a habit when one also finds a partner.
Money and how it is managed in a relationship is a very important topic to discuss with your partner. Every relationship is different and everyone has different needs and rules when it comes to money. In a healthy relationship, both of the individuals are working. In my ideal relationship, my partner and I both work and bring home our money and before purchasing anything, bills and other expenses should be paid. The remaining should be budgeted. Some should be saved and some should be spent on other necessities such as groceries. Whatever is left over can be spent on things we would like to have but don’t necessarily need. Relationships are about sharing. One person shouldn’t be spending while the other struggles to pay the bills with his own money. It is essential to share responsibilities in a healthy relationship.
This is a great way to say it. A relationship is all about balance, not literal equalness. Both partners might have different circumstances which they are in which is why sometimes one partner could help out a little more, or maybe altogether both spend less in order to keep things in order so the whole pay load doesn't land on just one. Things need to be made clear and fair. Emma Jumpelt
ahhh yes i completely agree w u!!! one person definitely shouldn't be doing all the bills alone because they might have other things they need to use their money for! and although i said myself that things such as bills should be divided evenly, i have changed my point. like u said, every relationship is different and has different rules, so as long as one person isn't doing all the work, i think it will still be a healthy relationship.
I like how you said relationships are about sharing. You open yourself up to another person and you share your life with them and in some cases that also means your finances. But that doesn’t mean you have to share everything with them. You still are allowed to maintain your sense of individuality and that means you get to keep some of your own money to yourself.
YESS, balance is so crucial in everything and anything really. You are letting someone in when you decide to be in a relationship so in order to keep that stable you should also share. A relationship shouldn't be a give or take situation, and it shouldn't be a me me me type of feeling either.
The way money should be shared in a relationship is dependent on how far you are in the relationship. For example you wouldn't share your paycheck with a dude you met at the bar. Compared to the wife you have been married to for 4 years. Time and trust is the determining factor in how money should be used and split in a relationship. In the Rice husband the way money is being shared is what I would call an unhealthy relationship. It caused trust issues between them and only made them less equal. In a healthy relationship where two people love each other money should be shared in one account. Just how you would share food with someone is the way you should share money, equally. Your money is their money and if the significant other has a problem with that then they need to reevaluate the relationship and determine if they actually want to be with the person, if they fail to feel the same way about sharing money and needing to work as together in order to function then your in an unhealthy relationship that is going to end.
“Your money is their money and if the significant other has a problem with that then they need to reevaluate the relationship and determine if they actually want to be with the person…” This is exactly what I was thinking when writing my response to this question! You need to remember that before getting married you have to figure out if you can trust your partner. You need to know that you can rely on them when times get hard. There is no mine or yours when you experience hardship. This is when arguments start developing and divorces start occurring. You need to remember that partners are two whole and not two halves. You need to compromise and make sacrifices because if you really trust someone that you love, then you are willing to come up with a plan to satisfy both of your needs, make sacrifices, and not just be selfish.
I believe that if you're in a relationship with someone you trust, you shouldn’t feel the need to constantly calculate. You should be able to openly share without expecting something in return. Of course you shouldn’t be the one that is always giving or always receiving but you should be able to give without thinking “man they owe me 3 dollars now”.
I agree with you Julius. Time and trust is the determining factor of how much money should be split up between a healthy relationship. You would share money with someone you trust and have known for years. Just like you said, you wouldn’t share money with someone you don’t know and someone with me you don’t have a deep connection with. As long as you have known the person for long enough you have to ability to trust and invest in them however much or how little you want.
In a healthy relationship, I think money should be split by whoever made that money is entitled to that money (for when both people are working). Like if you made $100 and your partner also made $100, both of you could choose what to do with your $100s after all the things that need to be taken care of are. But it should be balanced, if one person needs a little more, you should help provide so you both can stay afloat. Money should be shared and divided based on whose money it belongs to but you should think about the other person as well. If you actually care for each other, shouldn’t you help them be the happiest as they can be? Overall, money shouldn’t lean towards one person too much but it doesn’t have to be perfectly equal unless you want to just make both of your money, everyones. I personally don’t think what’s mines is yours is workable. Equally doesn’t work especially when one party contributes more than the other. You shouldn’t always be getting more when you contribute less. Separation and individuality is still needed in a relationship, having everything be shared can get messy. Both people should choose what to do with their own money but should fulfill their role in supporting each other when needed. Money should be spent on necessities first and then each party can decide what they want to do with their own money (would probably make sense to discuss what you’re going to spend it on first though).
Having money distributed at a balance is crucial for a healthy relationship because it helps to manage problems accordingly. Like you said, contributing to each other is important since it shows that both work together so they can face problems well. I like how you said that separation and individuality is still needed in relationship because we are humans, and we want to have our won personal things, not everything has to be shared with your partner but it also shouldn't be discriminated.
I really do think money in a relationship should be the last thing a couple should be thinking about especially how they should be splitting it. When in a relationship there is no good reason as to why you shouldn’t share money unless your having doubts abut the person your in relationship with. The way money is split in Lenas and Harold's relationship could only end badly because they never have enough trust or respect in one another to share there financial expenses. Deciding who pays for what is only going to make a relationship more unstable and bound to fall apart
YES! I agree because it wouldn't be fair for one person to do all the work but only get a small share of their spoils. But in a healthy relationship you know each other well enough that you know what each person needs. Both parties should contribute to the best of their ability. But life is relative and if everyone is happy with their situation that so be it.
I think that in a healthy relationship money is not a problem. I think that in that type of relationship money is divided and spilt evenly with every opinion been taken in consideration as well the desire of each individual. I also think that in a healthy relationship you have checks and boundaries and you respect the person as much you respect yourself so at that point money is just an easy fix between the individuals.
Dia I agree with the part where you said in a healthy relationship you have checks and boundaries. Also where you said the respect the person as much as you respect yourself. It’s important to respect your partner like how you respect yourself because that’s how relationships are suppose to be. The more you guys understand eachother the better the relationship would be.
I agree with your idea of money just being something that fluid and able to mold to a relationships situation and how it shouldn’t be the number one priority especially when there are more important things in the relationship, for example the person your in a relationship with. A lot of the issues in Lenas marriage stem from doing the exact opposite of what you said. They don’t respect each other because if they did then they would have the decency to talk about there feelings and but there problems aside and remember why they fell in love and got married.
I like your point that money is not the biggest problem in a relationship and I agree. Money is the last thing you should be worried about. There are far other important issues. I also like when you say money should be split between partner’s but they both need to be honest and share equally, I agree!
I think money should be shared equally among both sides. Not equal money value but more of the morals that can come along with the act of sharing, such as when, for example in friendships where people say they “owe” you a favor to anything you’ve done for them, no matter what it was because they are thankful for you helping them during their desperate time. As for dividing money, I believe it is necessary to divide money when it comes to rent and anything that both sides share because I strongly believe that it lessens the stress and pressure of paying for such bills, and that everyone has other things to spend their money on so one shouldn’t pay for everything and the example of sharing money equally shouldn’t be applied here. However, these are what I’ve concluded from hearing about how my parents shared and divided money in their relationship. These are the changes I wish my parents would do.
I also agree that money should be shared equally and consensually. In a relationship there shouldn’t be things like you have to pay me back or do me a favor the money should be under both people without one person having more then the other. The money should be something fluid and is like reservoir that ether person can take from.
i agree with you when you said that "it is necessary to divide money when it comes to rent and anything that both sides share because I strongly believe that it lessens the stress and pressure of paying for such bills" I've seen on TV how money problems start to develop when only one person is paying the bills and the other is living like royalty, I truly believe it's fair when money is divided in extremely important circumstances.
I agree with the angel because in a relationship there is more than just the money to be split up. Money doesn’t always bind or satisfy a relationship. It could be the morals and believes that brings their relationship together. Therefore there is more than just money being split up in a relationship.
In a healthy relationship money is something that is usually hard to talk about and in general a hard topic. I think money should be shared,divided and spent in a healthy relationship. This is so in a relationship there is two people and of course you both will have many things you guys want to buy or just spend money on. But in this case in a relationship both sides should understand what’s right and what’s wrong. Like what’s good to spend money on or not good to spend money on. In a healthy relationship the partners should focus on the “needs” and “wants” the most. If there isn’t any division within the money then there will likely be arguments between the two. Also with this communication and responsibility should come along. If you have a good communication between you and your partner then it will create a good relationship/bond. Meaning there will be less arguments and fights. In the relationship both sides should understand eachother and one shouldn’t be greedier then the other.
I agree with you that communication is very important and it creates a stronger relationship and less miscommunications.As well as theirs should be a division of money if it’s needed and they should have their own money for less problems and they could spent it how they want if they live together it’s different.
I agree with you stated mostly with the part of communication. I think everyone should be able to express themselves freely and to be listen too because that is a show of respect especially in a healthy relationship. I think ,like you said, the two partners should talk about it to not get to the point of arguing and spent it equally between each other.
In my opinion the way money should be shared, divided and spent in a healthy relationship depends on the relationship. The couple should agree on how they want to share it and what’s best for the relationship. Many people in relationships feel as if one person should take charge on more money because they are more responsible and adequate. They should have a plan for the money who has more uses the more they have for expenses. It should be divided in how the couple feels it should. But they should share it equally if they want to and have a stash of money for expenses like to pay rent that will cause less fights.
I agree with you that money should be shared, divided and spent in a healthy relationship depends on the relationship. But I also think it should depends on the personality. Should couples share money when one of them always make unnecessary spending?
Carlos I agree with your point. There shouldn’t be just one person in the relationship being responsible of the money. There should always be a plan and both partners should play a big role with the money. If this doesn’t happen then there will likely be fights between the two.
I agree with what you said about it depending on the relationship. Everyone is different. Everyone has different spending habits. Which is why it's important to discuss with your partner about how to manage their money. If one overspends or if one is careless with their money then it affects both of them.
I agree with Carlos on how communication and consent is most important in a healthy relationship and the couple would have to talk with each other and have a plan on how they would spend their money.
In my opinion couples should manage their own money. (wife manage her own money, husband manage his own money). But small things like eating out, watch movie, going to vacation..ect, should always paid by the husband. The house and cars should be belong to whoever paid the most. Once the couples have child, they should share the cost. The benefits of couples should manage their own money are the following: Divorce without financial disputes, You can decide what you want, Both parties have equal status, and there is no question of who has more power than others.
I agree with ChuanWu about how each side of the relationship should manage their own money but at the same time should they have a shared account or no and each side would just put a little of their income in it each time so they can use it as like emergency or savings for things they might want to buy.
Depending on the type of relationship like a regular couple or a married couple it really depends. For a regular couple there should be like little spending on each other to show appreciation and careness. But their money should be divided as the money you make is yours. The sharing portion of money for me depends on if they ask you for a type of loan, depending on the amount it should be allowed if they promise to pay it back, as it can build trust in the relationship. For a married couple I believe that they should have their own money but can have a level of trust to use each other's money for things that are important so they can both benefit from it. Spending wise the married couple should discuss how to spend their money when making big purchases like getting a house or apartment. They should be independent in making their own money but should be comfortable lending some when it's important.
I agree with you Elvis that their own money but can have a level of trust to use each other's money for things that are important so they can both benefit from it. And as couples making their own money, they can buy whatever they want with less quarrels.
I agree with you when you say that in a relationship each individual should be responsible for managing their own money. However, why should the husband always pay for the small things like dates and vacations? I think I have an idea of where you were going with this but it’s a new age and both individuals can pay for things together. I know that in my ideal relationship I would not always want to have my partner pay for dates and constantly be treated to dates. What if I want to take my partner on a date and treat them to something nice? I would definitely treat them and pay in that situation! Assets like cars and houses should be shared by both people if they are both paying for it, that’s the whole point of a partnership, being able to share what is yours with some one else. Interesting how one of your reasons for not sharing money in a relationship is the fear of financial disputes if you get a divorce… (•_•) yikes. Sounds like a waste of time to me.
I agree with Elvis on the second part about the married couple, but for the regular couple part about the loans and the promise to pay back what if the partner who asked for the loan gets the loan but never pays back, or in the case of a married couple yes they need a level of trust but what if even with that level of trust one of the partner decides to have a divorce what happens then?
Love is a two way street and I feel the same way about how couples should be about their money as it takes two and both people should have a say in what the money should be put into. Both should be able to whatever they want with their money as long as they are able to face consequences of spending money recklessly. When both people have a say so in what the money would be spent on and be centered on more progression can be made. The less equality when it comes to money is when problems and trusts issues start to occur.
I agree that the two people in the relationship should have a say in the relationship and that they should spend their money how they want because they earned it.
I agree that there has to be a balance, which is why you think that each partner “must work on their own and then come together to manage the budget”, but this sounds more like each person being an individual. When it comes to a marriage, you should be coming together and being able to compromise. When getting married, you should be able to put your trust in your significant other. Both partners have to be two wholes in order to make a complete and balanced relationship. It would be extreme to say that everything has to be shared or that everything has to be separated. Therefore, each person can work and have their own money, but at the end of the day, you are coming together to compromise and discuss how you will both manage your money in financial situations, but also in your shared life experiences.
The way you share, divide, and spend your money is all relative. There is no math equation that could be used to determine how much money should be divided to be in order for the relationship to be considered healthy. I don’t think either partners are obligated to share their money with each other. However, if they live together, money should be budgeted since they do share some expenses such as rent. A person shouldn’t be completely dependent on someone else's income, so there shouldn’t be one person that is always receiving and never giving. It's fine if one partner chooses to contribute more than the other, as long as they aren’t being manipulated but they just have to find their own balance. Although money is important it shouldn’t be the glue that holds relationships together.
This is probably one of the most clearest way to answer this question, in my opinion. I feel like people nowadays overthink everything too much and need to let go in order to enjoy themselves.
Spending, dividing, and sharing money shouldn't be associated with the driving factors of a relationship. In order for there to be a healthy and happy relationship, balance with money is key. Balance in general is key to any sort of stability. When it comes to money there should be an equal agreement/understanding between both sides, amount is more of a personal factor. You shouldn't feel the need to split anything with someone unless it's mutual and the situation that you're in puts you in that position. In order to have a healthy and happy relationship with anyone the feelings/actions should be mutual. Its better to have someone to lean on, not someone to depend on.
Money 100% shouldn’t be a driving factor. I agree when you say there should be an equal agreement and understanding on both sides. There should be a mutual agreement to share. If you’re depending on your partner then you need to learn how to be independent and bring something to the table because eventually if you keep being a leech your partner will notice it. I know if I was with someone who didn’t want to work for their own money and was not contributing anything, I would get out of that relationship because we don’t like when people use us! ; )
I believe in a healthy relationship money should be shared through the consent of the partner especially when you are using a large sum of money at one time. In a healthy relationship money should be shared equally for most of the time but when buying things like maybe a expensive accessory or maybe even something like a car or house. In a healthy relationship the form of income and payments shouldn't be completely reliant on one person, instead the burden should be shared equally among the two.
I agree that each party should consent when making a big purchase. But I would also like to add on that depending on each person's financial stability one might have to pay more and it shouldn't be an issue when there's a situation like that because in a healthy relationship you trust that person to make the right decisions
In a healthy relationship money should be spent reasonably. There is no need to spending money on unnecessary things when all people need is a healthy relationship. In a healthy relationship sharing mine my shouldn’t be a problem. Although money may seem important to depend on in a relationship it doesn’t make one happy. It’s the relationship that does. Money could be spent as much or as little in a relationship as long as it has its own reasons to be spent.
In a healthy relationship money should be spent reasonably. There is no need to spending money on unnecessary things when all people need is a healthy relationship. In a healthy relationship sharing mine my shouldn’t be a problem. Although money may seem important to depend on in a relationship it doesn’t make one happy. It’s the relationship that does. Money could be spent as much or as little in a relationship as long as it has its own reasons to be spent.
I agree with you the money should be spent reasonably and with the fact that in a healthy relationship we should be willing to share because we love and care for our partner.I really like how you put and your definition of how to share and to divide the money in a healthy relationship.
Agree with you that in a healthy relationship money should be spent reasonably. And there's no need to spending money on unnecessary things to maintain a healthy relationship.
I agree with your statement that money should be spent on necessary thing and isn't the source of happiness. As well as the relationship is the source of happiness and money shouldn't be spent reasonably.
I agree with your statement that in a healthy relationship money should be spent responsibly, because spending money responsibly in a healthy relationship is nice
When it comes to financials in a relationship I think there's a lot of factors that go into making decisions with things like bills. You have to take in consideration like who makes more money? Are their finances already adjoined? Who's better with money? Who pays which bills? You must also think about whether each person is financially stable independently. I believe that in a healthy and financially stable marriage bills should be divided equal between each person or like "hey pay the rent and I'll pay the light and water" or go half way on each bill, half on rent, half on cable, half on electric, etc. But I think that financial stability is the key. If one person has a lower paying job the other person should fill in for what the other can't but it shouldn't be a problem and should be a mutual agreement.
I completely agree with you. It should be a joint effort and as long as both partners are putting in the same effort and trying to contribute to the best of their ability it should be enough to maintain a balance. You have to ask your partner and yourself a lot of questions to determine how you would prefer to split your money because 50/50 isn’t the best way to do it for everyone.
In a marriage money should be divided but not kept track of in order for it to be a healthy relationship. By divided it doesn’t mean right down the middle 50/50 it means I’ll pick up where you can’t and that’s my token of appreciation. Personally I think it’s better to have finances as separate as possible in the event that the spouse tries to manipulate you financially. But you also have to think about if there’s other factors that contribute to how money is spent. For example if there’s children or who makes more money. Either way it should be spent reasonably and with the intent of both people in the relationship.
I believe that money should be shared when it's important. For example if you buys groceries, the other partner should buy something that's equivalent to the price of the groceries. It should be divided when investing, when having retirement funds, but not divided when having a checking account. If I earned the money I worked for, it's mine, of course I'll share it if one needs something. Somethings are just meant to keep personal. The decision on how the money is spent is the one who earned it. I'd say food, decor, or even travel. Money could also ruin relationships, and who wants that? I certainly don't.
I totally agree with you! I think money shouldn't ever be the cause of a breakup or a dent in ones relationship. Effort and time is also a key factor to building a healthy relationship. Same with making and spending money efficiently lol
I want to agree but at the same time I don’t. In a relationship money doesn’t really matter. For example in a relationship when someone does groceries, a person doesn’t necessarily have to pay the equivalent price and as the other person. If one person in the relationship paid payed for the food the other person should be thankful and satisfied. The money doesn’t have to be divided up equivalently, as long as you are satisfying yourself as well as your beloved.
I believe that money should be shared, and divided equally in a healthy relationship. For example money should be divided when investing. This is important because dividing money in a healthy relationship is decent.
I think money should be hared and divided evenly to have a healthy relationships. But splitting and dividing the money isn't the main point of a good relationship. I think it is how the person spends the money to keep a healthy relationship. Like if one spends the money for gambling, runs out and is in debt which causes arguments and demands more money form their partner, that is a terrible relationship. I think a healthy relationship is when you spend your money wisely. Money should be divided evenly or how much each person made and spent on things they need to keep the relationship healthy instead of sour.
ReplyDeleteMoney spending is a really complicated topic when it comes to relationships. There is so much information to account. Both people in the relationship have to decide on what to spends and how to spend it. Communication is key. Money is dangerous and it can lead to many conflicts, and like you said, it causes arguments. In a mature and healthy relationship, there should be a budget where both equally contribute on decision making, they might not get the same amounts because each one has their own money (different jobs, different pay) but both equally should communicate concerns and finance accordingly. Money can lead to many arguments and break many relationships but if managed accordingly it can work out.
DeleteI agree with you that money should be spent wisely and not irresponsibly but when it comes to spending money for leisure time it’s probably not the same circumstances. Does spending all of your own money not put into the relationship affect the finances in the relationship? Does the spouse have a right to feel upset about that money?
DeleteI believe that there are such things as bad spending habits that you listed but if one is using their money that doesn't cut into the household expense and doesn't bother the other person then it should be no problem. There should be some type of division amongst the people but also to always have a seperate account in which they can use for themselves. Having all money tied together could result in someone spending too much or having too little.
DeleteI strongly agree with you statement that money should be spend wisely and that in order to have a good relationship, money shouldn't revolve around it. Gambling and debt could crumble the relationship thus it's good to learn trusty money habits.
DeleteIn a healthy relationship money should not be shared but rather financed accordingly. There are many variables to consider in this situation, what if the couple is married? What if they are high school students? What if one is in college while the other is working? What if they are both in college? What if they live together? What if they are parents? Knowing how to finance in each situation it's crucial. It would be ideal to have money divided equally but if they are both high school and not living together why would they divide money equally? are they going to ask their parents for money and then divide it between the two? There should be a three-way thinking, respecting each other's money, support each other financially, and plan ahead. For instance, if both are married and live together, both should have heir own money, both should have a budget for the household 9one that everyone shares) and another amount that is reserved for emergency (meaning no one can have it). In other words, each has their own money, there is another amount that is shared(or borrowed), and the other amount that is saved (This of course does not apply for all cases). Therefore, money should be respected, distributed at a balance, taking in consideration expenses and other factors that may apply.
ReplyDeleteI agree when you said that money should respected and distributed at a balance b/c if not there won't be any peace b/w the people in the relationship. Like what you said dealing with finance is very crucial. There's a certain way money should be handled, and if it isn't then things the right way. Money is a complicated thing amongst people who are in a relationship, no matter if they just got into one or they've been in a relationship for a long time.
DeleteI didn't mean kids in HS. My question was more about people that are married or live together!
DeleteI agree with what you say that money should be financed accordingly and on the situation of the couple because it's better than sharing without knowing what the other partner is spending on. It's a big responsibility that has to been wisely decided in order to have food on the able and sharing won't help. I also agree with saving some for emergency because that would really help in a relationship if the economy is recceding.
DeleteIn my opinion, money should be shared, divided and spent evenly b/w the two people in the relationship b/c everything is fair and right b/w the two people. I can tell from my experience from seeing how my parents split money b/w them, that if money isn't split evenly, things will go south. My dad likes to save his money, so that when something bad happens he's prepare with his money. Nothing wrong with that, always be prepared for the future. However, my mom likes to spend money, not on useless things but things she needs for us and the home and everything else. Since my dad doesn't allow my mom to have a job, every time my mom wants to buy something, she has to ask my dad for money. Since, my dad doesn't like spending money, he's always complaining why does my mom spend so much money on useless things and etc. My dad keeps all the money to himself and usually never gives money to my mom when she needs it. So in a healthy relationship, there should be a balance when it comes to money. We all have our things we need to buy, it may sound useless to other people but to us it seems useful if we're buying it. Therefore, money should used respectfully and equally amongst the two people in the relationship.
ReplyDeleteI also disagree because equality doesn't always mean that everyone gets the same. It's more like everyone gets what they need to be equal to one another and different amounts of money will fulfill that.
DeleteI agree and disagree because it isn't fair for your mom who might even want to work but your dad isn't letting her and therefor has to be dependent on your dad however, I don't think everything should be equal. for example one person is really hard working and works long hours and earns a lot while the other person doesn't work as hard, does minimum work, gets low pay and expects the other person to split his/her money with him/her. That wouldn't be right so splitting evenly won't work all the time.
DeleteI strongly agree that money should be divided equally between a married couple. However, there does have to be a balance maintained. One person can’t just take more and not provide anything back to the compromise. Even if one person does not have a job, they have to provide other things like cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children, and etc. Partners in the relationship should be able to communicate with one another and understand each other's needs so that each person can satisfy the needs by using the shared income. If there is horrible communication between the partners, it is difficult to develop compromises and discuss the reasons to one's decision with purchase. I understand that some people may worry about the money and their financial situation, but the key is communication. Communication will lead to the balance and trust needed in a relationship in order for everything to work out in the end.
DeleteI agree and disagree with some of the things that was said. It’s pretty unlikely that money is ever going to be evenly split because life happens. Sometimes one persons has more than the other or like you said one person pretty much controls the finances. It’s more about deciding what needs to be spend where and how often. Sort of like an agreed budget between the two people.
DeleteThe idea of money being shared, divided, and spent in a relationship is kind of a broad topic because this depends on whether someone is assessing a new couple in college or a married couple. When it comes to a couple that is in high school, college, or just have been with each other for a few months, I believe that each person should earn and have their own money. Someone could buy their boyfriend/girlfriend something, but the couple doesn’t have to essentially share money. When a couple starts to get more serious and live with each other, this is when I would expect a couple to start sharing money to pay for the rent and utilities. Each person in a serious relationship may have their own money that they earn from their jobs, but I would expect them to start deciding together on whether to cook more or go out sometimes, which leads to the discussion of how to spend money on bills, but also on the sort of lifestyle that they want to live. In a healthy relationship, communication is key. When people are married, I would say that this is when people start to share more money, think about budgeting, and have bank accounts together. Individuals who are married should be able to trust each other, which is why more money is shared. Husbands and wives could have their own portions of money that they earn from their job that they may use on a day to day basis, but they have to keep in mind how to balance their money to satisfy their financial needs, their lifestyle, and their daily expenses. All in all, it depends on what stage in a relationship you are in, but overall, you should be able to trust your significant other, share money depending on how serious the relationship is, and maintain a balance.
ReplyDeleteI agree that the money spent and how a couple deals with finances reflects their lifestyle. Even if there isn’t a good “balance” that shouldn’t entirely affect the relationship. Of course money is a crucial part to any relationship but the other person is entitled to have their own money and even if it does go sour as far as finances your lifestyle depicts how you’ll deal with it. Bad lifestyle = bad money management
DeleteIn a healthy relationship, I think money should be shared, divided, and spent equally. The couple should compromise on what they want to spend their money on but also be happy with what they spend on themselves. The spending should be fair as well. For example, if they happened to have an extra amount of money and one wanted to go on vacation while the other wanted to save it, I feel they should come up with a solution. Or if one of the partners wants to buy something for themselves, if the other partner has an issue they should speak up about it and again come up with a compromise.
ReplyDeleteI agree with most of what you have said, but I also think that just because they want to buy something for themselves they shouldn't have to discuss that with their partner. If I want to buy a bag I would buy a bag. It's my money, as long as I don't spend his/hers it doesn't matter in my opinion. But I do think that whenever both partners are involved in a spending, both should be consulted and a solution should be found.
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Myasia I agree with what you said. The couples should always come to a comprise one what they spend their money on. They should also talk and speak about it as well. In a relationship there should be a comprise and if you guys want to do stuff alone with your money then feel free too. But always know there is limits and one shouldn’t be greedier then the other.
DeleteMy standpoint on whether money should be shared, divided and spent in a healthy relationship is that it all depends on the relationship and how much a person can provide to the other person in the relationship. However, I still do think money should be shared and divided, depending on how the other person feels about it. I think this because in a relationship you and another person are like “half” of each other and together that makes a whole. In that sense, I think in a healthy relationship you would be able to share the money and divide it so then it can help to balance out the relationship. For example, let's say we go out for dinner. You can pay for the dinner that day. But I may also have to pay for dinner next time. That being so, it helps to balance and stabilize the relationship therefore, there isn't no hard feelings in that way. Also, I think that in a healthy relationship you need communication with one another so you can find a middle ground on what each other wants. I want to add saying that it all depends on the relationship and how far they are in. Despite that being said a healthy relationship is having communication, stabilization, and equality.
ReplyDeleteI agree with everything you said. Especially the part where you said money should be shared and divided depending on how the other person feels about it. It's also good to balance out the relationship.
DeleteMoney is something many people fight about. Especially in a relationship where you need to find a balance of spendings together. The way they did it in the book is how I'd never thought of doing it, you don't have to calculate every little thing and split it in half. I also don't think you need to keep track of all the spendings for each other. For example this is how I do it with friends: If i buy you lunch today, you'll buy me lunch next time. It doesn't matter if it's a couple dollars more or less, you don't have to calculate it to the exact. Also, since Harold earns more than Lena, he should sometimes pay more and not expect her to pay for something she doesn't use. And just because he might've paid more for the house does not mean that he can decide everything about it. He chose to earn more than Lena by not letting her invest into the idea she had for him, and by not promoting her after 2 years of working for him. A healthy relationship does not consist of literal equalness with everything but it's about balance. As long as the spendings balance each other out in a way, there shouldn't be a problem with the money.
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DeleteI agree with you Emma. I feel as if you calculate all the numbers, you get lost in what you are trying to do. Being so meticulous in a relationship is draining and taking away from your time with your significant other. Communication is key when splitting money and combining expenses but shouldn't be a burden or a daily routine for a couple, because it distracts you.
I agree with everything you said. I think that in order to have a healthy relationship you can pin point everything you do to make sure its equal because then it makes the relationship feel over whelmed and not going with the flow. I liked how you said having communication is about having balance which is right.
DeleteIn a healthy Relationship money should be shared for expenses that involve both partners. Such as Rent, Utilities, and bills. I also believe that in some moments there one partner can have more money than others in which the partner could try to put in some more money. Money also should be divided in which one should have money for some personal expense because each person has their own needs and wants and should take care of them themselves. In some instances each partner could share their money and spend on each other for leisure and fun.
ReplyDeleteI agree with everything you said. Just because you're together does not mean you have to split all the bills evenly. For expenses like rent and utilities I understand that the costs should be shared, and also as you said if one person may earn more money, they can put more money in altogether.
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I agree with you Lamont that the expenses can be shared so then it doesnt feel like only one person is paying for everything. However, I think that a person in the relationship should as much as they can to their potential. And obviously its call about communication.
DeleteIn a healthy relationship you need to discuss your income and how you're going to create a budget.
ReplyDeleteMoney should be spent reasonably in order to have some saved for the future. If they plan on having kids then they'll have to be extra careful so that can provide for them. Money is very important in a healthy relationship.
I strongly agree with you that they should discuss and have a budget and have money saved incase of a emergency. Money causes many problems in relationships so it should be spent reasonably and they should talk and and discuss there income it will reduce problems , communication is key.
DeleteI agree that, "In a healthy relationship you need to discuss your income and how you're going to create a budget" because there are many situations in which not every person in the relationship makes the same amount of money as the other. I feel like as long as everyone plays their part, than the relationship is fair, equal and smooth sailing
DeleteI totally agree with the part of spending your money reasonably for the future and that you should budget because you never know. And having money and usuing it reasonably keeps a healthy relationship.
DeleteIn a healthy relationship Money is shared between all parties involved. When A marriage blossoms, both the wife and the husband should contribute to everything in order to pay for expenses (wants and needs). A woman shouldn't be expected to pay nothing, pay more, or pay for all expenses , and neither should men. There comes a point in the relationship where the couple has children and as the children grow up and find their own source of income while still living under the parents house. When that occurs, I believe that the children should also contribute to the finances. Not only is it a great way to learn and implement habits, but its also a great way to give back to the parents who gave you so much. there are many moving parts to have a successful relationship , and one of that includes finances. Everyone in the relationship has to do their part in order for the parts to keep moving.
ReplyDeleteI agree when you said that everyone in the relationship has to do their part in order to keep things moving b/c it's if one person in the relationship isn't doing what they're supposed to do, it screws the relationship up. Everyone is expected to play their part in the relationship, everything is supposed to be equal amongst everyone in the relationship.
DeleteI definitely agree when you said "I believe that the children should also contribute to the finances. Not only is it a great way to learn and implement habits, but its also a great way to give back to the parents who gave you so much." This statement could be applied the youth of our generation, when helping our parents out, in the long run it will prepare us when living by our selves in the world. It will also contribute a habit when one also finds a partner.
DeleteMoney and how it is managed in a relationship is a very important topic to discuss with your partner. Every relationship is different and everyone has different needs and rules when it comes to money. In a healthy relationship, both of the individuals are working. In my ideal relationship, my partner and I both work and bring home our money and before purchasing anything, bills and other expenses should be paid. The remaining should be budgeted. Some should be saved and some should be spent on other necessities such as groceries. Whatever is left over can be spent on things we would like to have but don’t necessarily need. Relationships are about sharing. One person shouldn’t be spending while the other struggles to pay the bills with his own money. It is essential to share responsibilities in a healthy relationship.
ReplyDeleteThis is a great way to say it. A relationship is all about balance, not literal equalness. Both partners might have different circumstances which they are in which is why sometimes one partner could help out a little more, or maybe altogether both spend less in order to keep things in order so the whole pay load doesn't land on just one.
DeleteThings need to be made clear and fair.
Emma Jumpelt
ahhh yes i completely agree w u!!! one person definitely shouldn't be doing all the bills alone because they might have other things they need to use their money for! and although i said myself that things such as bills should be divided evenly, i have changed my point. like u said, every relationship is different and has different rules, so as long as one person isn't doing all the work, i think it will still be a healthy relationship.
DeleteI like how you said relationships are about sharing. You open yourself up to another person and you share your life with them and in some cases that also means your finances. But that doesn’t mean you have to share everything with them. You still are allowed to maintain your sense of individuality and that means you get to keep some of your own money to yourself.
DeleteYESS, balance is so crucial in everything and anything really. You are letting someone in when you decide to be in a relationship so in order to keep that stable you should also share. A relationship shouldn't be a give or take situation, and it shouldn't be a me me me type of feeling either.
DeleteThe way money should be shared in a relationship is dependent on how far you are in the relationship. For example you wouldn't share your paycheck with a dude you met at the bar. Compared to the wife you have been married to for 4 years. Time and trust is the determining factor in how money should be used and split in a relationship. In the Rice husband the way money is being shared is what I would call an unhealthy relationship. It caused trust issues between them and only made them less equal. In a healthy relationship where two people love each other money should be shared in one account. Just how you would share food with someone is the way you should share money, equally. Your money is their money and if the significant other has a problem with that then they need to reevaluate the relationship and determine if they actually want to be with the person, if they fail to feel the same way about sharing money and needing to work as together in order to function then your in an unhealthy relationship that is going to end.
ReplyDelete“Your money is their money and if the significant other has a problem with that then they need to reevaluate the relationship and determine if they actually want to be with the person…”
DeleteThis is exactly what I was thinking when writing my response to this question! You need to remember that before getting married you have to figure out if you can trust your partner. You need to know that you can rely on them when times get hard. There is no mine or yours when you experience hardship. This is when arguments start developing and divorces start occurring. You need to remember that partners are two whole and not two halves. You need to compromise and make sacrifices because if you really trust someone that you love, then you are willing to come up with a plan to satisfy both of your needs, make sacrifices, and not just be selfish.
I believe that if you're in a relationship with someone you trust, you shouldn’t feel the need to constantly calculate. You should be able to openly share without expecting something in return. Of course you shouldn’t be the one that is always giving or always receiving but you should be able to give without thinking “man they owe me 3 dollars now”.
DeleteI agree with you Julius. Time and trust is the determining factor of how much money should be split up between a healthy relationship. You would share money with someone you trust and have known for years. Just like you said, you wouldn’t share money with someone you don’t know and someone with me you don’t have a deep connection with. As long as you have known the person for long enough you have to ability to trust and invest in them however much or how little you want.
DeleteIn a healthy relationship, I think money should be split by whoever made that money is entitled to that money (for when both people are working). Like if you made $100 and your partner also made $100, both of you could choose what to do with your $100s after all the things that need to be taken care of are. But it should be balanced, if one person needs a little more, you should help provide so you both can stay afloat. Money should be shared and divided based on whose money it belongs to but you should think about the other person as well. If you actually care for each other, shouldn’t you help them be the happiest as they can be? Overall, money shouldn’t lean towards one person too much but it doesn’t have to be perfectly equal unless you want to just make both of your money, everyones. I personally don’t think what’s mines is yours is workable. Equally doesn’t work especially when one party contributes more than the other. You shouldn’t always be getting more when you contribute less. Separation and individuality is still needed in a relationship, having everything be shared can get messy. Both people should choose what to do with their own money but should fulfill their role in supporting each other when needed. Money should be spent on necessities first and then each party can decide what they want to do with their own money (would probably make sense to discuss what you’re going to spend it on first though).
ReplyDeleteHaving money distributed at a balance is crucial for a healthy relationship because it helps to manage problems accordingly. Like you said, contributing to each other is important since it shows that both work together so they can face problems well. I like how you said that separation and individuality is still needed in relationship because we are humans, and we want to have our won personal things, not everything has to be shared with your partner but it also shouldn't be discriminated.
DeleteI really do think money in a relationship should be the last thing a couple should be thinking about especially how they should be splitting it. When in a relationship there is no good reason as to why you shouldn’t share money unless your having doubts abut the person your in relationship with. The way money is split in Lenas and Harold's relationship could only end badly because they never have enough trust or respect in one another to share there financial expenses. Deciding who pays for what is only going to make a relationship more unstable and bound to fall apart
DeleteYES! I agree because it wouldn't be fair for one person to do all the work but only get a small share of their spoils. But in a healthy relationship you know each other well enough that you know what each person needs. Both parties should contribute to the best of their ability. But life is relative and if everyone is happy with their situation that so be it.
ReplyDeleteI think that in a healthy relationship money is not a problem. I think that in that type of relationship money is divided and spilt evenly with every opinion been taken in consideration as well the desire of each individual. I also think that in a healthy relationship you have checks and boundaries and you respect the person as much you respect yourself so at that point money is just an easy fix between the individuals.
ReplyDeleteDia I agree with the part where you said in a healthy relationship you have checks and boundaries. Also where you said the respect the person as much as you respect yourself. It’s important to respect your partner like how you respect yourself because that’s how relationships are suppose to be. The more you guys understand eachother the better the relationship would be.
DeleteI agree with your idea of money just being something that fluid and able to mold to a relationships situation and how it shouldn’t be the number one priority especially when there are more important things in the relationship, for example the person your in a relationship with. A lot of the issues in Lenas marriage stem from doing the exact opposite of what you said. They don’t respect each other because if they did then they would have the decency to talk about there feelings and but there problems aside and remember why they fell in love and got married.
DeleteI like your point that money is not the biggest problem in a relationship and I agree. Money is the last thing you should be worried about. There are far other important issues. I also like when you say money should be split between partner’s but they both need to be honest and share equally, I agree!
DeleteI think money should be shared equally among both sides. Not equal money value but more of the morals that can come along with the act of sharing, such as when, for example in friendships where people say they “owe” you a favor to anything you’ve done for them, no matter what it was because they are thankful for you helping them during their desperate time. As for dividing money, I believe it is necessary to divide money when it comes to rent and anything that both sides share because I strongly believe that it lessens the stress and pressure of paying for such bills, and that everyone has other things to spend their money on so one shouldn’t pay for everything and the example of sharing money equally shouldn’t be applied here. However, these are what I’ve concluded from hearing about how my parents shared and divided money in their relationship. These are the changes I wish my parents would do.
ReplyDeleteI also agree that money should be shared equally and consensually. In a relationship there shouldn’t be things like you have to pay me back or do me a favor the money should be under both people without one person having more then the other. The money should be something fluid and is like reservoir that ether person can take from.
Deletei agree with you when you said that "it is necessary to divide money when it comes to rent and anything that both sides share because I strongly believe that it lessens the stress and pressure of paying for such bills" I've seen on TV how money problems start to develop when only one person is paying the bills and the other is living like royalty, I truly believe it's fair when money is divided in extremely important circumstances.
DeleteI agree with the angel because in a relationship there is more than just the money to be split up. Money doesn’t always bind or satisfy a relationship. It could be the morals and believes that brings their relationship together. Therefore there is more than just money being split up in a relationship.
DeleteIn a healthy relationship money is something that is usually hard to talk about and in general a hard topic. I think money should be shared,divided and spent in a healthy relationship. This is so in a relationship there is two people and of course you both will have many things you guys want to buy or just spend money on. But in this case in a relationship both sides should understand what’s right and what’s wrong. Like what’s good to spend money on or not good to spend money on. In a healthy relationship the partners should focus on the “needs” and “wants” the most. If there isn’t any division within the money then there will likely be arguments between the two. Also with this communication and responsibility should come along. If you have a good communication between you and your partner then it will create a good relationship/bond. Meaning there will be less arguments and fights. In the relationship both sides should understand eachother and one shouldn’t be greedier then the other.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you that communication is very important and it creates a stronger relationship and less miscommunications.As well as theirs should be a division of money if it’s needed and they should have their own money for less problems and they could spent it how they want if they live together it’s different.
DeleteI agree with you stated mostly with the part of communication. I think everyone should be able to express themselves freely and to be listen too because that is a show of respect especially in a healthy relationship. I think ,like you said, the two partners should talk about it to not get to the point of arguing and spent it equally between each other.
DeleteIn my opinion the way money should be shared, divided and spent in a healthy relationship depends on the relationship. The couple should agree on how they want to share it and what’s best for the relationship. Many people in relationships feel as if one person should take charge on more money because they are more responsible and adequate. They should have a plan for the money who has more uses the more they have for expenses. It should be divided in how the couple feels it should. But they should share it equally if they want to and have a stash of money for expenses like to pay rent that will cause less fights.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you that money should be shared, divided and spent in a healthy relationship depends on the relationship. But I also think it should depends on the personality. Should couples share money when one of them always make unnecessary spending?
DeleteCarlos I agree with your point. There shouldn’t be just one person in the relationship being responsible of the money. There should always be a plan and both partners should play a big role with the money. If this doesn’t happen then there will likely be fights between the two.
DeleteI agree with what you said about it depending on the relationship. Everyone is different. Everyone has different spending habits. Which is why it's important to discuss with your partner about how to manage their money. If one overspends or if one is careless with their money then it affects both of them.
DeleteI agree with Carlos on how communication and consent is most important in a healthy relationship and the couple would have to talk with each other and have a plan on how they would spend their money.
DeleteIn my opinion couples should manage their own money. (wife manage her own money, husband manage his own money). But small things like eating out, watch movie, going to vacation..ect, should always paid by the husband. The house and cars should be belong to whoever paid the most. Once the couples have child, they should share the cost.
ReplyDeleteThe benefits of couples should manage their own money are the following:
Divorce without financial disputes,
You can decide what you want,
Both parties have equal status, and there is no question of who has more power than others.
I agree with you but would occur if the husband makes significantly less than the wife?
DeleteThat will be a different story. But usually people marry within their social class, only usually.
DeleteI agree with ChuanWu about how each side of the relationship should manage their own money but at the same time should they have a shared account or no and each side would just put a little of their income in it each time so they can use it as like emergency or savings for things they might want to buy.
DeleteDepending on the type of relationship like a regular couple or a married couple it really depends. For a regular couple there should be like little spending on each other to show appreciation and careness. But their money should be divided as the money you make is yours. The sharing portion of money for me depends on if they ask you for a type of loan, depending on the amount it should be allowed if they promise to pay it back, as it can build trust in the relationship. For a married couple I believe that they should have their own money but can have a level of trust to use each other's money for things that are important so they can both benefit from it. Spending wise the married couple should discuss how to spend their money when making big purchases like getting a house or apartment. They should be independent in making their own money but should be comfortable lending some when it's important.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you Elvis that their own money but can have a level of trust to use each other's money for things that are important so they can both benefit from it. And as couples making their own money, they can buy whatever they want with less quarrels.
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DeleteI agree with you when you say that in a relationship each individual should be responsible for managing their own money. However, why should the husband always pay for the small things like dates and vacations? I think I have an idea of where you were going with this but it’s a new age and both individuals can pay for things together. I know that in my ideal relationship I would not always want to have my partner pay for dates and constantly be treated to dates. What if I want to take my partner on a date and treat them to something nice? I would definitely treat them and pay in that situation! Assets like cars and houses should be shared by both people if they are both paying for it, that’s the whole point of a partnership, being able to share what is yours with some one else. Interesting how one of your reasons for not sharing money in a relationship is the fear of financial disputes if you get a divorce… (•_•) yikes. Sounds like a waste of time to me.
DeleteSound interesting. But things happen.
DeleteI agree with Elvis on the second part about the married couple, but for the regular couple part about the loans and the promise to pay back what if the partner who asked for the loan gets the loan but never pays back, or in the case of a married couple yes they need a level of trust but what if even with that level of trust one of the partner decides to have a divorce what happens then?
DeleteLove is a two way street and I feel the same way about how couples should be about their money as it takes two and both people should have a say in what the money should be put into. Both should be able to whatever they want with their money as long as they are able to face consequences of spending money recklessly. When both people have a say so in what the money would be spent on and be centered on more progression can be made. The less equality when it comes to money is when problems and trusts issues start to occur.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you especially if one takes advantage of the other partner's income and just starts recklessly spending it on whatever.
DeleteI agree that the two people in the relationship should have a say in the relationship and that they should spend their money how they want because they earned it.
DeleteI agree that there has to be a balance, which is why you think that each partner “must work on their own and then come together to manage the budget”, but this sounds more like each person being an individual. When it comes to a marriage, you should be coming together and being able to compromise. When getting married, you should be able to put your trust in your significant other. Both partners have to be two wholes in order to make a complete and balanced relationship. It would be extreme to say that everything has to be shared or that everything has to be separated. Therefore, each person can work and have their own money, but at the end of the day, you are coming together to compromise and discuss how you will both manage your money in financial situations, but also in your shared life experiences.
ReplyDeleteThe way you share, divide, and spend your money is all relative. There is no math equation that could be used to determine how much money should be divided to be in order for the relationship to be considered healthy. I don’t think either partners are obligated to share their money with each other. However, if they live together, money should be budgeted since they do share some expenses such as rent. A person shouldn’t be completely dependent on someone else's income, so there shouldn’t be one person that is always receiving and never giving. It's fine if one partner chooses to contribute more than the other, as long as they aren’t being manipulated but they just have to find their own balance. Although money is important it shouldn’t be the glue that holds relationships together.
ReplyDeleteThis is probably one of the most clearest way to answer this question, in my opinion. I feel like people nowadays overthink everything too much and need to let go in order to enjoy themselves.
DeleteSpending, dividing, and sharing money shouldn't be associated with the driving factors of a relationship. In order for there to be a healthy and happy relationship, balance with money is key. Balance in general is key to any sort of stability. When it comes to money there should be an equal agreement/understanding between both sides, amount is more of a personal factor. You shouldn't feel the need to split anything with someone unless it's mutual and the situation that you're in puts you in that position. In order to have a healthy and happy relationship with anyone the feelings/actions should be mutual. Its better to have someone to lean on, not someone to depend on.
ReplyDeleteMoney 100% shouldn’t be a driving factor. I agree when you say there should be an equal agreement and understanding on both sides. There should be a mutual agreement to share. If you’re depending on your partner then you need to learn how to be independent and bring something to the table because eventually if you keep being a leech your partner will notice it. I know if I was with someone who didn’t want to work for their own money and was not contributing anything, I would get out of that relationship because we don’t like when people use us! ; )
DeleteI believe in a healthy relationship money should be shared through the consent of the partner especially when you are using a large sum of money at one time. In a healthy relationship money should be shared equally for most of the time but when buying things like maybe a expensive accessory or maybe even something like a car or house. In a healthy relationship the form of income and payments shouldn't be completely reliant on one person, instead the burden should be shared equally among the two.
ReplyDeleteI agree that each party should consent when making a big purchase. But I would also like to add on that depending on each person's financial stability one might have to pay more and it shouldn't be an issue when there's a situation like that because in a healthy relationship you trust that person to make the right decisions
DeleteIn a healthy relationship money should be spent reasonably. There is no need to spending money on unnecessary things when all people need is a healthy relationship. In a healthy relationship sharing mine my shouldn’t be a problem. Although money may seem important to depend on in a relationship it doesn’t make one happy. It’s the relationship that does. Money could be spent as much or as little in a relationship as long as it has its own reasons to be spent.
ReplyDeleteIn a healthy relationship money should be spent reasonably. There is no need to spending money on unnecessary things when all people need is a healthy relationship. In a healthy relationship sharing mine my shouldn’t be a problem. Although money may seem important to depend on in a relationship it doesn’t make one happy. It’s the relationship that does. Money could be spent as much or as little in a relationship as long as it has its own reasons to be spent.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you the money should be spent reasonably and with the fact that in a healthy relationship we should be willing to share because we love and care for our partner.I really like how you put and your definition of how to share and to divide the money in a healthy relationship.
DeleteAgree with you that in a healthy relationship money should be spent reasonably. And there's no need to spending money on unnecessary things to maintain a healthy relationship.
DeleteI agree with your statement that money should be spent on necessary thing and isn't the source of happiness. As well as the relationship is the source of happiness and money shouldn't be spent reasonably.
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DeleteI agree with your statement that in a healthy relationship money should be spent responsibly, because spending money responsibly in a healthy relationship is nice
DeleteWhen it comes to financials in a relationship I think there's a lot of factors that go into making decisions with things like bills. You have to take in consideration like who makes more money? Are their finances already adjoined? Who's better with money? Who pays which bills? You must also think about whether each person is financially stable independently. I believe that in a healthy and financially stable marriage bills should be divided equal between each person or like "hey pay the rent and I'll pay the light and water" or go half way on each bill, half on rent, half on cable, half on electric, etc. But I think that financial stability is the key. If one person has a lower paying job the other person should fill in for what the other can't but it shouldn't be a problem and should be a mutual agreement.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you. It should be a joint effort and as long as both partners are putting in the same effort and trying to contribute to the best of their ability it should be enough to maintain a balance. You have to ask your partner and yourself a lot of questions to determine how you would prefer to split your money because 50/50 isn’t the best way to do it for everyone.
DeleteIn a marriage money should be divided but not kept track of in order for it to be a healthy relationship. By divided it doesn’t mean right down the middle 50/50 it means I’ll pick up where you can’t and that’s my token of appreciation. Personally I think it’s better to have finances as separate as possible in the event that the spouse tries to manipulate you financially. But you also have to think about if there’s other factors that contribute to how money is spent. For example if there’s children or who makes more money. Either way it should be spent reasonably and with the intent of both people in the relationship.
ReplyDeleteI believe that money should be shared when it's important. For example if you buys groceries, the other partner should buy something that's equivalent to the price of the groceries. It should be divided when investing, when having retirement funds, but not divided when having a checking account. If I earned the money I worked for, it's mine, of course I'll share it if one needs something. Somethings are just meant to keep personal. The decision on how the money is spent is the one who earned it. I'd say food, decor, or even travel. Money could also ruin relationships, and who wants that? I certainly don't.
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DeleteI totally agree with you! I think money shouldn't ever be the cause of a breakup or a dent in ones relationship. Effort and time is also a key factor to building a healthy relationship. Same with making and spending money efficiently lol
I want to agree but at the same time I don’t. In a relationship money doesn’t really matter. For example in a relationship when someone does groceries, a person doesn’t necessarily have to pay the equivalent price and as the other person. If one person in the relationship paid payed for the food the other person should be thankful and satisfied. The money doesn’t have to be divided up equivalently, as long as you are satisfying yourself as well as your beloved.
DeleteI agree with you, that money should be divided equally in a healthy relationship because it is decent.
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ReplyDeleteI believe that money should be shared, and divided equally in a healthy relationship. For example money should be divided when investing. This is important because dividing money in a healthy relationship is decent.
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